Sunday, April 24, 2011
How much is too much or too little?
I've never had a baby before these two, and I don't really remember much about what we did with my little sister around this age. Also, I'm not that into the parenting books that I've bought, because they either seem very into attachment parenting (which is near impossible with twins- as it's based on meeting baby's needs as soon as they are expressed- twins need to learn patience from a very young age) or completely against it, suggesting that babies are on a strict schedule. I kind of do an in between method, scheduling them, but allowing for variation if they seem to need it, i.e. earlier waking times, bigger bottles, more naps. So far my babies seem fairly happy and well adjusted. Very social and thrilled to be around each other and adults, but also able to have down time alone in their swings or cribs. They're even pretty good about being taken places and eating/sleeping places other than at home. They go to bed awake, I say goodnight, and they go to sleep at night. I feel like they are eating enough, rarely have diaper rash and a generally happy babies. I say all of this to make the point that for the most part I'm pretty comfortable with the parenting job DJ and I are doing. But there are lots of things I'm not sure about too. Do they have too much down time? Should I stop swaddling them even though they seem to still need it? Should I take them out more or stay home more? Is 10 minutes of tummy time per day too little, even though they don't like it. Should I read to them at night, or should I wait until they are older and understand better? Is it too early to pray with them and tell them Bible stories? Will already talking about ABC's and shapes and things create odd little nerds? Is reinforcing cooing and trying simple imitation with them too much for this early age. Should I take them outside more, or is the sunlight bad for their little skin? I guess all parents think and worry about these things, but with two I feel like I have the chance to mess up two times as badly. What do or did you do with your 13 week old? They are only 7 weeks adjusted, and I'm not even sure of which age to go with. Comments?